today, i felt like discussing certain issues in relationships, regarding work and love!!
WOMEN VALUE RELATIONSHIPS AND MEN VALUE WORK.
men have always defined themselves by their work and accomplishments and women define their self-worth by the quality of their relationship. a man is a lunch-chaser and problem solver- this has to be his priority for survival. a women is a nest defender - her role is to ensure the survival of the next generation.
studies have shown that 80% men say, the most important part of their lives is work and 70%- 80% women have said that the most important priority is their families.
IF A WOMEN IS UNHAPPY IN HER RELATIONSHIP SHE CANNOT CONCENTRATE IN HER WORK, AND IF A MAN IS UNHAPPY IN HIS WORK, HE CANNOT CONCENTRATE IN HIS RELATIONSHIP..
well i have always faced such problems in relationship. if i had a fight with my boyfriend or any of my family members i fail to concentrate on my work, and i have seen my boy friend, he is just the opposite.
under stress or pressure a women sees spending time with her man as a reward, while man sees it an interference in problem solving process.
The moral of the story is understanding the difference will help to take the pressure of you and your partner and the relationship rocks.
Hello there, am nobody to comment on your Private affairs but we cannot take anything as it is ..in short, be rigid in our thoughts of anything, compartmentalize...stereotype things...women dubbed the so called " Weaker Sex" are the harbingers of the society, they are the catalysts in embedding the mores, folkways, traditions, heritages, ethics, morals etc into anyone's life...hence and maybe that's why, it is said that in Hindu mythology women are attributed to be the symbolic personification of goddess Durga as well as the goddess of Destruction, Kali( who has become popular in the Western Pop culture too...with even supermodel Heidi Klum dressed as one in a carnival party).
ReplyDeleteIt seems You are deeply in love with your BF...that is good because loving someone deeply gives the person concerned courage
I appreciate this quality...just on a personal level try to conquer short temperdness, try to laugh on yourself at some foolish habit you do or anyone does.
My Great grandfather( Maternal) used to say
in Urdu...." Haraam Khao Neki Kamaao" ( eat the vice and earn virtue) what he meant actually is eat the anger and earn goodness in life for, I'll say Gargi this tongue is a double - edged sword you can heal someone with it and you can bruise also...Women are made by the Almighty to be caring and tender in their relationships, it's their inherent quality...Theology has it Mother Mary(Hazrath Biwi Mariam..in Islam) had immense love for her chosen son Jesus Christ( Hazrath Isa allaih Salaam in Islam i.e., peace be upon him)again Prophet Mohammad's(PBUH) life which has come under much speculation now... thanks to Western Media, was a complete guardian and protector to his Daughter Hazrath Biwi Fatima and it was he who infused many reforms for the womenfolk who were deprived a lot in the Arabia of that time which ran on the lines of " Might is Right"..it's a fact that he used to stand before Harzrath Biwi Fatima entered any room of their house to honour her if he( who is a prophet) is sitting in any place.
Your statistics are good but just cite the sources so that nobody can ask you for
credibility.
I'm amazed when these wildlife
documentaries show how a Tigress or a Lioness cares for her cubs , Men tend to hide the so-called problems they have for instance a bad day at work or for that matter a displeasant encounter with someone and hence there are lots of Heart attack cases in men...maybe you have heard the saying...men are not supposed to cry! Maybe, they are stereotyped of being Sturdy and Robust...in this juncture am
reminded of the Johar - the fire ritual Rajput( Women) nobility used to do in their palaces that is burning themselves instead of being caught by the aggressors of the Rival intruding party of some king or chieftain
Again am reminded at the same time the responsibility which Tipu Sultan, the martyred King of Mysore or for instance any ruler of India would have shown for protecting
the women of the palace( the place where they lived was known as Zenana )when intruders broke open their fortresses, its all about the deeply embedded values we have in all of us due to our social, Political and economic backgrounds .... for instance many of my Muslim friends drink( i won't comment for its a personal habit ) but there is no record in My mother's as well as Father's side of drinking habits and maybe, subconsciously am proud of that ... there are people who value ironically money more than their relations then again speaking on a personal level i have my maternal uncle who calls all the way from California and speaks with me for more than an hour and the strangest thing is that i haven't met any of my maternal uncles or aunties! God Bless